Changing your name is as far as you can go without breaking the law. This will be the toughest part. Anyone you stay in touch with is a connection back to your old life. All it takes is a check of phone records or an intercepted email to give you away. Of course, this advice may seem a bit drastic.
Will you be able to walk away from your family and friends? Not even dear old Granny. Image from Wiki Commons. Start looking for somewhere to live. Scour newspaper ads and online classifieds instead. Moving to a place with a lot of people is a better idea than shacking up in a small village or moving to the sticks.
In these remote places, everyone knows everyone else. Make the anonymity of the city work for you. As an EU citizen you can live and work without a visa in any of the 28 member countries. Start changing the way you look as soon as you can without arousing suspicion. Dye your hair and change the style. The important thing is that these changes must be sustainable.
We bump into people we know in the strangest places. Make sure your disguise is more convincing than this. Buy a second-hand camera and document life on the streets as you volunteer in a soup kitchen. Build a log cabin out in the woods and live off berries and squirrels. You could move from town to town, taking casual jobs and occasionally turning into a big green monster every time someone annoys you.
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We located a large company that was in the area and used that as her employment address. Then we used a contact phone for the same company—but at another location, in a different city. We hoped that the ex and his hired goon would think she had transferred locations, and yet another dead-end search would begin. Team Jailbird could pretext and skip-trace all over Oklahoma — they would never find Vera. Each of these searches was going to cost money—racking up an investigative bill in the hundreds, if not the thousands — and each would take time.
The Sinker Before Vera hit the road to her new, undisclosed location, we opened up a small checking account at a random bank. Then she asked for a debit card, which I passed along to an associate of mine who travels all over the country.
Louis, Montreal, Seattle. That was our sinker: a clue so wild that it would take a private investigator years to get her head around it. Perhaps the private investigator would call the banks and make the very illegal move of pretending to be Vera.
She might even do some preliminary investigating in these cities, wasting even more time and money. Even if the jailbird had limitless resources, the PI might be so frustrated at this point that she gives up.
Vera is still safe today, and you know what? We enjoyed giving her jailbird the finger. But having that role foisted upon him caused him such distress that he abruptly left town forever and told no one where he was going. Regardless of their reasons, they turn to companies that help them through the process.
They help people who want to disappear discreetly remove themselves from their lives, and can provide lodging for them in secret whereabouts. Sociologist Hiroki Nakamori has been researching jouhatsu for more than a decade. Divorce rates were and still are very low in Japan, so some people decided it was easier to just up and leave their spouses instead of going through elaborate, formal divorce proceedings. All the family can do is pay a lot for a private detective.
Or just wait. For the loved ones who get left behind, the abandonment — and resultant search for their jouhatsu — can be unbearable.
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